What happens during pref night?

Pref Night (Preference Night) is the final, most formal round of sorority recruitment, where potential new members (PNMs) have deeper, more emotional conversations with sisters, get a glimpse into sacred rituals, and both parties make their final choices, culminating in signing the MRABA card (Membership Recruitment Acceptance Binding Agreement) to signal their top choices for Bid Day. Events are serious and intimate, focusing on sisterhood values, often with classical music and personal stories, aiming to create strong bonds before bids are extended.

What happens on Preference Night?

"Usually the way [Preference Night] works is that a sister in the chapter will preference a PNM, usually someone you've spoken to in the previous rounds," Kwarteng said. "You [will] have a deeper conversation [with them], they'll tell you a little bit more about why they joined their chapter.

Are you guaranteed a bid after pref night?

You are guaranteed a bid as long as you rank both the houses you were invited to for preference round. It may not be your first choice, as it is based on where you are ranked on the sorority bid list & their quota.

What happens after a pref round?

This round serves as a heartfelt farewell, and by the end, you might just receive a bid invitation, marking the start of your journey with a new sisterhood. Remember, this is a special moment for both you and the sorority; they are genuinely hopeful that you will accept their bid and choose to join their chapter.

What to wear for pref night?

Preference night is definitely your most elevated moment of the week, so lean into those dressier vibes. Think cocktail dresses, midi styles, and formal silhouettes. You still want to feel comfortable, but this is your chance to dress to impress.

Preference Round

What is the 3-3-3 rule for outfits?

The "333 rule" in clothing refers to two popular minimalist fashion concepts: the 3-3-3 Styling Method, choosing 3 tops, 3 bottoms, and 3 pairs of shoes for versatile outfits, and Project 333, a larger challenge to wear only 33 items (clothes, accessories, shoes, outerwear) for 3 months. The smaller 3-3-3 method focuses on creating many combinations from few items to simplify dressing, while Project 333 is a broader minimalist lifestyle challenge to reduce wardrobe size. 

What are the 5 B's to avoid during rush?

During sorority rush, avoid the "5 Bs": Boys, Booze, Beliefs (politics/religion), and Bucks (money), as these can be divisive or overly personal, focusing instead on shared interests, values, and positive experiences to build genuine connections. The common "B" topics are Boys, Booze, Beliefs (or Bible), Bucks, and sometimes Ballots (politics) or even a specific person (like "Bush").
 

What is dirty rushing in a sorority?

Dirty rushing in a sorority is when members break official recruitment rules to gain an unfair advantage, using tactics like contacting potential new members (PNMs) outside the allowed "silence period," sending gifts, promising bids, trash-talking other houses, or offering special privileges, all to influence a PNM to choose their chapter. This manipulates the fair recruitment process and can get both the rusher and the PNM in trouble with the university or Panhellenic council. 

What do you talk about during pref?

WHAT TO TALK ABOUT: Your hostess may talk privately with you about your feelings for her sorority and answer any final questions you have. During this time, you should listen carefully to what the women tell you about their sisterhood. Listen to what they say.

What is the most elite sorority?

Prestigious sororities often include Kappa Kappa Gamma, Alpha Phi, Delta Gamma, Chi Omega, Delta Delta Delta, Alpha Delta Pi, Kappa Alpha Theta, and Alpha Chi Omega, known for strong national presence, high recruitment, and notable alumnae, though "prestige" varies by campus and individual values, with groups like Alpha Kappa Alpha (AKA) and Delta Sigma Theta (DST) holding immense historical significance and community impact. 

What not to say during sorority recruitment?

During sorority recruitment, avoid the "4 or 5 B's" (boys/dating, booze/drugs, bucks/money, beliefs/religion, ballots/politics) and trash-talking other chapters or Greek life, as these topics create awkwardness, distractions, or negative impressions; instead, focus on your values, academic interests, passions, and genuine connection to sisterhood to find a good fit. 

How do sororities choose who to invite back?

How do sororities decide who to invite back to their events? Recruitment is a mutual selection process. This means PNMs rank the sororities they would most like to return to, and the chapters provide a list of PNMs they would like to invite back.

Can I put my sorority on my resume if I dropped?

Whether or not you held a leadership position, you should include your time in your sorority or fraternity on your resume. You can enhance your resume by highlighting your participation in philanthropy events, experience organizing or decorating for events, or ability to present ideas or opinions during meetings.

Can you get dropped after pref?

There is a huge myth that there are cuts after preference. That is not how RFM works. You do not release women after preference.

Do sororities pick based on looks?

Yes, looks can play a role in sorority recruitment, but it's usually alongside other factors like personality, grades, and connections, with some chapters focusing more on traditional aesthetics (sometimes called the ""look"") while others, often newer ones or those under national pressure, aim for more diversity, though unfair biases, including appearance-based ones, still exist. While official recruitment emphasizes values, character, and good conversations, some individual members or chapters still prioritize outward appearance, leading to pressure on potential new members (PNMs) to fit a certain mold, with some even using coded language for physical traits. 

How to impress a sorority during rush?

Don't try to be someone you're not. Sorority sisters are looking for new members who are confident, authentic, and genuine. Ask thoughtful questions: Sorority recruitment is a two-way street. While the sorority sisters are getting to know you, you should also be getting to know them.

What is pref night like?

Ritual and Ceremony

Sororities use preference night to share the deeper meaning of their sisterhood and develop a connection with prospective members. You can expect to spend most of your time with one member. She will reveal the significance of her sorority experience and how her sorority is special.

What are the 5 B's of sorority?

"Avoid bringing up the five 'B Words': Boys, Ballots, Booze, Beliefs, and Bucks." Okay... this is a "yes and no" kind of thing. The "B Words" list—comprised of topics that PNMs should supposedly "never ever discuss" during recruitment week—has been circulating for years now.

What questions do sororities ask during rush?

Questions Sorority Members May Ask You:

• Where are you from? What's your hometown?
• What dorm are you in?
• What classes are you taking?
• Do you have a major already?
• Did you have a fun summer? ...
• How are you enjoying rush/recruitment?
• Have you met your roommate yet? ...
• How are you enjoying your first week of school so far?

What are the 4 B's of sorority rush?

What should I not talk about during sorority recruitment? Avoid the 4 B's: booze, boys, bucks, and beliefs. These topics can lead to awkward moments or misunderstandings that distract from what really matters, your values, interests, and potential as a sister.

Are boyfriends allowed in sorority houses?

Boyfriends are generally not allowed to stay overnight in sorority houses, and often have restricted access to upper floors or specific public areas due to safety, comfort, and tradition, though rules vary by chapter, with many having curfews for male guests and some allowing them in certain common spaces. While national guidelines often prohibit alcohol and overnight guests, local chapter rules dictate specifics, with many enforcing "no boys upstairs" policies for privacy and security, though members sometimes bend these rules informally.
 

What is dirty bidding?

Being promised a bid or being guaranteed that you will get invited back to another recruitment round. Recruiters are absolutely not allowed to say things like, “See you tomorrow” or “I can't wait to see you on bid day!” and there is a reason for that.

What should you not do during a sorority rush?

Don't: Party During Recruitment

Don't do something you may regret later because of peer pressure to go out. There are strict rules against partying during sorority rush and these rules are taken very seriously. Even the girls in Panhellenic can't go out, so you all have something in common that week.

Does everyone who rush get a bid?

No. Not everyone will receive a bid from a sorority. It is a possibility to receive no call backs on any given Day of Rush or make it through Pref round and get dropped at the last minute.

Why do sororities do dry week?

26. Some sorority members said dry bid week gives pledges a better chance to get used to their chosen groups. "The idea is for pledges to get to know a sisterhood before they are thrown into a social system," said Shelly Simon, rush chairwoman of Alpha Chi Omega sorority, 101 S. Hibbs.