What should you not do during a sorority rush?

During sorority rush, you should not play on your phone, talk about the "4 B's" (booze, boys, beliefs, bucks/money), badmouth other chapters, party or drink, give/receive gifts/notes (dirty rush), or treat it like a job interview; instead, be yourself, be present, and focus on genuine connection and shared values.

What are the 5 B's to avoid during rush?

During sorority rush, avoid the "5 Bs": Boys (focusing on dating/frat guys), Booze (partying/drinking), Bucks (money/being materialistic), Ballots/Bible (politics/religion), and sometimes Bush (depending on the source, often linked to politics) to prevent awkwardness, seem less self-centered, and show you're seeking genuine sisterhood, not just social fun or hookups. Focus on your interests, values, and learning about the chapter instead, but some sources suggest faith (Bible) can be okay if it's a core part of you.
 

What not to talk about at Rush?

Booze, Boys, Bucks, and Beliefs.

And here's the important part: chapter members are also coached to avoid these topics. So it's not all on you to steer the conversation away from risky areas, everyone's trying to keep the focus on things that actually help you figure out where you belong.

What do you have to do when rushing a sorority?

During sorority recruitment, alumna fill out recommendations for candidates that focus on academics, leadership and service achievements. Any alum can write a letter as a member vouching for the potential of the person rushing, even if they aren't very well acquainted with them or have much valuable to say.

Do sororities pick based on looks?

Yes, while sororities officially focus on character, values, and academics, appearance and "fit" (which often includes looks, style, and social connections) can significantly influence recruitment, with some chapters even having unspoken beauty standards or pressures that affect who gets invited back. Modern national guidelines push for diversity, but local chapters and individual members may still prioritize looks, family background, or social status, creating a complex and sometimes unfair system where confidence and conversational skills matter alongside overall presentation. 

QUESTIONS DURING RUSH: what to ask & what you'll be asked

What are the 5 B's of sorority?

"Avoid bringing up the five 'B Words': Boys, Ballots, Booze, Beliefs, and Bucks." Okay... this is a "yes and no" kind of thing. The "B Words" list—comprised of topics that PNMs should supposedly "never ever discuss" during recruitment week—has been circulating for years now.

Is it true people see you 20% attractive?

It's a popular idea, often stated as "people see you 20% more attractive than you see yourself," stemming from the fact that we're often our own harshest critics and focus on flaws others miss, with studies suggesting people tend to underestimate their own attractiveness, though the exact "20%" figure isn't a hard scientific rule but a way to express that personality, confidence, and other factors boost our perceived appeal beyond just looks.
 

How to impress a sorority during rush?

Don't try to be someone you're not. Sorority sisters are looking for new members who are confident, authentic, and genuine. Ask thoughtful questions: Sorority recruitment is a two-way street. While the sorority sisters are getting to know you, you should also be getting to know them.

How do sororities pick who they want?

The voting process for the sororities can vary depending on the campus and the sorority. Two main methods usually take place: Chapter Vote: A chapter vote is when everyone in the sorority has a say in potential new members. Your name will come up, and everyone will vote on whether or not to invite you back.

What to wear when rushing a sorority?

Sorority rush outfits for this day should be casual and cute (but make sure to wear comfortable shoes, you'll be on your feet a lot). Easily nail this day by wearing your designated tee (given to you by the leader during the week) with shorts, a skirt and some comfortable shoes.

How to stand out at Rush?

Prepare to Make a Good First Impression

During rush week, fraternities and sororities host events and give new students their first chance to meet members. To make the best first impression, be respectful and personable, make eye contact, and try your hardest to remember the names of the people you meet.

What are good questions to ask during a rush?

Be Prepared: Recruitment Questions

• Where are you from? What's your hometown?
• What dorm are you in?
• What classes are you taking?
• Do you have a major already?
• Did you have a fun summer? ...
• How are you enjoying rush/recruitment?
• Have you met your roommate yet? ...
• How are you enjoying your first week of school so far?

How to survive sorority rush?

“The sororities rushing you want to impress you just as much as you want to impress them. Be yourself and trust your gut when you're making decisions.” “Don't be afraid to start a conversation of your own. You don't have to just sit there and answer the questions that they ask you!”

How to stand out to a sorority?

Standing out during rush isn't about being the loudest person in the room or wearing the most eye-catching outfit. It's about being yourself and showing a real interest in each chapter. Sororities are looking for members who will add something special to their sisterhood.

What shoes to wear during rush?

These will be the longest days during rush, so it's important to stay comfy! For your shoes, we recommend flat sandals or a shoe with a slight platform. Finish off your look with jewelry that represents your personal style, which can be a great conversation starter!

What to say during a pref round?

Preference Round

• I would be happy to participate in this chapter's philanthropy because it is interesting to me.
• I would be happy to participate in this chapter's activities on campus.
• This sorority seems genuinely interested in having me as a member.

What is the most elite sorority?

"Prestigious" sororities often refer to those consistently ranked as top-tier nationally or at specific universities, typically including Kappa Kappa Gamma (KKG), Delta Gamma (DG), Pi Beta Phi (Pi Phi), Kappa Alpha Theta (Theta), Delta Delta Delta (Tri-Delta), and Alpha Phi, known for strong sisterhood, large networks, and leadership, though prestige varies by campus and individual values, with groups like Alpha Delta Pi (ADPi)https://www.greeku.com/blogs/news/best-sororities-us-complete-guide, Chi Omega (Chi O)https://www.campusexplorer.com/student-resources/best-sororities/, and Alpha Omicron Pi (AOII) also highly regarded for size, history, or philanthropy. 

What not to say during sorority recruitment?

During sorority recruitment, avoid the "4 or 5 B's" (boys/dating, booze/drugs, bucks/money, beliefs/religion, ballots/politics) and trash-talking other chapters or Greek life, as these topics create awkwardness, distractions, or negative impressions; instead, focus on your values, academic interests, passions, and genuine connection to sisterhood to find a good fit. 

Does every girl get a sorority bid?

Bid Day signals the end of a fall recruitment process, but not every woman who registered will receive a bid to a sorority chapter.

How to prepare for rushing a sorority?

Pre-Rush: Sorority Rush Prep

There is a prep period of one or two weeks, depending on the school. The majority of the prep week(s) is spent learning the songs and/or chants that you and your sisters will sing at the start of each party. Before you start your conversations with girls, you put on a "show" of sorts.

How long is the preference round?

The third day is the Preference round. This round is far more intimate, as you only meet with up to two organizations and speak to one person for around an hour.

How do you show interest in a sorority?

You show genuine interest in a sorority sisterhood by asking her questions. You also express that you're eager to learn about their sisterhood. And this is a characteristic that all sororities want in PNMs!

How to tell if you're actually attractive?

You can tell if you're attractive through others' reactions, like people smiling, making prolonged eye contact, staring (then looking away), or acting nervous/awkward around you, and by receiving frequent compliments or positive social engagement (like messages/likes). Attractiveness also shows in social ease, getting help easily, and others wanting to be near you, though some attractive people get fewer compliments due to the "beauty bias". 

At what age does beauty peak?

Beauty's peak age varies by perception, but studies suggest men often see female beauty peak around 28-31, while women perceive their own peak beauty slightly later or value confidence in their 30s and 40s, with general views ranging from early 20s for youthfulness to later decades for maturity and self-assurance, but beauty itself is subjective and subjective perception shifts.
 

Do we see ourselves as uglier or prettier?

Psychological research suggests most people tend to see themselves as prettier than strangers do, a bias from seeing our mirror image (which is reversed) and focusing on flaws, but low self-esteem or societal pressure (especially for young women) can flip this, making us feel uglier, while some studies show unattractive people overestimate their looks and attractive people underestimate them, creating varied experiences.